(( From Others — For Others ))
Sometimes, we remain unhappy because of a reasons that is in no way related to us — especially the negative talks and discussions. However, just without being self aware and conscious of what is our purpose in the talks and things happening around us, we tend to penetrate into the flow of words and we lead to unwanted stress.
One day, Me and two of my friends went for a coffee break. Break is to refresh from our routine work and just get recharged. We took our mug of coffee and Tea and sat on a table. It was nice evening weather and cool breeze flowing silently. An ideal break to take. But, within few seconds, it broke out into something else.
One of the friends asked the other friend about an opinion on a topic which was no where impacting any three of us. I guess my friend to intended to start the talk just to initiate something.
It turn out to be that there was a difference of opinion amongst them. The topic was casual, I was just enjoying my green lemon tea though and hearing that they started a conversation on a topic that is “trending” now in the media and especially social media. As they had a different thoughts on that subject, the conversation started to take an odd direction and obviously when a third neutral person is listening, we tend to argue harder just to assure that we win in the eye of any audience. Which is just a temporary ego that drives us. Both went on for logical argument and discussion in very professional manner though! But, I could sense the anxiety on their face rising.
It went on for a while and then until I get more into my thoughts as well on what they were speaking, I decided to break the conversation by just pointing a nice aircraft that was flying from outside the window of cafeteria. Off-course, the turbulence was more in the mind and hearts of my friends than in the sky for that aircraft. I know it would take some time for them to settle but I kept on changing the topics to not let the talks come back.
In these few minutes, what I realised is that unknowingly, if we are not focused on the learning, hearing, doing, thinking, acting, positive, we can be easily driven by negatives around us which most of the time is “From others and for others!”
To your surprise, the topic that led few minutes of unhappiness in both of my friends mind, is no longer remembered by anyone. It always is temporary. Like you must be knowing that every night there might be breaking news and we just get so much involved in it to be like virtually part of it and then just within a weeks time, we are virtually involved in another breaking news. As it goes on for year and year, we may have no impact on the breaking news but we are somewhere breaking our ability of independent positive thinking.
Its mainly ‘from Other — for Others!” unknowingly, we take stress in between and be sorrowful for some minutes, hours or sometimes days!
Yes, and it has no impact to us but we tend to spend our precious time of mind into scrap and temporary negative thoughts!
Ideally, Mind is a source of beautiful creative and positive ideas! When this imbalance happens, it is obvious that we lose few moments of our life in sorrow!
Why not spend every possible moment of life in positive hearing or positive talking or positive seeing or positive thinking or positive sharing or positive reading — even though it is “From others — for others!”
Here’s one good example to play our role effectively in assuring what we pass “From others — for others!”.
One day, the former beloved president of India — Dr APJ Abdul Kalam was questioned by media on negative things happening in the country and of-course the answers from President will be the headlines. Being an extremely positive person, he instead took the conversation in a different direction that no journalist would expect.
He asked all the journalist to peacefully sit down first and said- “I offer you all a partnership!“ All the journalist were surprised and obviously who didn’t want to be a partner of the President of the nation.
He said “ Would you be my partners to spread positivity , are you all in?” Many journalist had a smile on their face and waited for what he says next.. He added “If you want to be my partner to spread happiness, please make sure you highlight the story of a small village where the villagers managed to get the electricity for the first time in their life and now they see brighter future for them and their children. Will you all publish this great achievement of the nation — positive news in tomorrow’s news paper as headlines?” All the journalist got the message. Rather than always focusing something isn’t good, why not spread that is good?
Let us be conscious on what we pass to others, positive or negative? “From others — For others!”
Thank you!
Ketul Chauhan
